It’s just a stage I reminded myself as I hovered over my 18 month old anywhere we went in order to protect other children from his hitting and throwing. Relaxing play dates do not exist when your child loves to throw matchbox cars and train tracks and has an aim that is quite precise.
It’s just a stage I hoped as I allowed my newly independent child to try everything by himself. As I stood in the freezing cold so he could hoist himself into the car on his own I hoped that this too would pass. As I patiently watched him struggle against his shoes and throw them in frustration I kept myself in check by praising his attempts. As he took the reigns of the remote control to find his favorite show I told myself that one day it would all come easily for him.
Some day, very soon. Because it’s just a stage. It’s all just a stage.
If you have a baby who struggles with sleep, has finally gotten that day time nap down, refuses a bottle, loves to be worn, can sleep anywhere or smiles just upon seeing you smile remember it is just a phase. As soon as the sleeping is mastered, the bottle is taken with ease and smiles are effortless something will change.
If you have a toddler that wants to do everything on his own, is cranky when a nap is skipped, will eat anything on his plate, cleans up all his toys or cries when you drop him at school remember it is just a phase. Someday soon that toddler may be a carefree, napless kid who loves to make a mess and waves and smiles as you leave school each day.
While my children have not yet reached school age or teenage I know I will see various stages through those ages as well. There will be personality shifts, changes in extracurricular interests, clinginess or aversion of me, great groups of friends or social struggles. I will see them go through extreme highs and deep lows and I will learn to ebb and flow with each stage I see.
And I will learn to love them through each stage. Because, it’s all just a stage.
I have now been a mom for four years and four months. In the whole scheme of life this is just a small blip, but in this small blip I have learned some of life’s most valuable lessons. I have learned more about myself than I ever thought possible and I have learned a lot about these little humans I am charged with and blessed with raising. The best and hardest lesson I have learned is that I do not have total control regardless of how hard I may try.